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Speak Power Into Your Day

ChristianCartoon13Every morning I speak empowering affirmations. In these affirmations, I am repeating God’s Words and reiterating to myself who I am. I am indicating to God that I have faith in Him and the Him that resides inside of me. These are powerful, positive statements that unleash affable actions and great expectations all day, for example: “I am a victor, not a victim. God inspires me. I attract peace, love, and joy. This is going to be a great day!”

If you tell yourself when you first wake up that today is going to be a great day, you are setting in motion your actions for the day, painting your environment for the day, and taking control of your life. You must have faith and believe that it is going to be a good day, no matter what. If you tell yourself first thing in the morning that “something good will happen to you today”, you will look for the good in everything. Positive, empowered, joyful living starts in your mind, takes action through your words, and burrows into your heart. It is a practiced state.

Bring your faith out of your heart and into the air. Send your words of faith out into the air, and experience peace and calm. Practice a positive outlook each morning, and watch it make a difference in your daily demeanor.

Many blessings,
Trina

Daily Inspiration 09/08/09

Live Skillfully

“Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will serve before kings…”
(Proverbs 22:29, NIV)

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria

Too often, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut, doing the same thing the same way over and over every day. But if we are going to live at our absolute best, we should constantly be growing and sharpening our skills. We should strive to learn and grow every single day because when you stop learning, you stop growing. When you stop growing, you stop living.

What are you doing to stretch yourself? What are you doing to improveimproveskills your skills? Don’t get trapped into thinking that “good enough” is good enough. You are created for more than just average. Today is a new day, and there are new heights for you to climb. Pursue what you love and keep developing that area of your life. Take a class or find a mentor that will help you live skillfully. As you do, you’ll rise up higher and higher. You will stand before leaders and rulers, and you’ll live the blessed life God has in store for you!

A PRAYER FOR TODAY

“Father in heaven, today I choose to rise out of mediocrity. I choose to give my very best to everything I do. Teach me to live skillfully so that my life is a continual praise to you. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.”

Daily Inspiration 08/26/09

In an Instant

“…And in an instant, suddenly, you shall be visited and delivered by the Lord of hosts…”
(Isaiah 29:5-6, AMP)

from Joel and Victoria

All through the Bible, we have examples of how God suddenly showed Himself strong on behalf of His people. But sometimes when we’ve struggled in an area for a long time, it’s easy to just give up and accept things the way they are. One of the enemy’s favorite lies is to tell you that nothing is ever going to change. He’ll tell you that you’re never going to get well, that your marriage isn’t going to work out, that you’re never going to break that addiction. But I want to tell you today, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in those circumstances, God can change things in an instant! In a split second of time, He can turn it all around. One touch of God’s power can heal your body. One touch of His favor can promote you. One touch of His goodness can solve that problem. Just one touch from Almighty God can instantly change your life.

I encourage you today, keep believing, keep standing, and keep hoping. Don’t let the enemy drag your thoughts down because God is working behind the scenes. Your time is coming, and I declare that your breakthrough is going to happen suddenly–in an instant!

A PRAYER FOR TODAY

“Father in heaven, I choose to trust that You are working things out for my good. I choose to stand in faith, believing that my season of breakthrough is coming. Give me Your strength and peace as I patiently wait on You. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.”

Daily Inspiration 08/20/09

Whacking Worry

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

Yesterday, we talked about Fear being a debilitating emotion that serves the devil. Fear counteracts faith and paralyzes you giving Satan an access point to wreak havoc in your life. Without fear, Satan’s hands are tied. If he cannot get you to fear anything, then he cannot deceive or trick you with lies. We counteract Satan’s lies with God’s Truth…His Words in the Bible.

 Today we discuss Worry. As a verb, worry means to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; fret. As a noun, worry is defined as a cause of uneasiness or anxiety; trouble. When concerns, problems, and issue constantly bombard your mind, your faith diminishes, and your confidence in God decreases. When this occurs, you’ve created an entry point for Satan to enter your spirit.

Worry can:

  • Damage your health
  • Cause whatever you are worrying about to consume your thoughts, taking your mind off of God
  • Disrupt your productivity because you constantly think about what you are worried about
  • Cause you to act negatively towards others, effectively isolating you from others
  • Reduces your ability to trust in God

Do not let worries about tomorrow affect your relationship with God today.

To alleviate worries:

  1. Pray.
  2. Study God’s Word to build your faith and confidence in God.
  3. Obey God’s Laws.
  4. Plan. Careful planning includes thinking ahead about your goals, tasks, and schedules, and seeking God’s guidance for the plan (Proverbs 16:3, 9).
  5. Speak God’s Word to combat worry and fear.

Scripture Readings: Psalm 34:4, Philippians 4:-7, Philippians 4:19, Matthew 6:25-34, Joshua 1:1-9, Psalm 27, Psalm 55:22, Jeremiah 29:11-14, Psalm 37:1-9, Psalm 34

Additional Resources from Previous Posts:

No Worries

No Fear Here

Don’t Serve the Problem

Inspirational Fiction Reading List

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Inspirational Fiction Novels

These novels contain stories that are inspirational, enlightening, uplifting, or didactic. The authors create colorful, three-dimensional, unique characters who are ordinary people trying to live right.

If you’ve already read these authors, leave a reply for me, and I’ll post more. Leave me comments letting me know what you think of the books. Enjoy!

 

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Stacy Hawkins Adams

Stacy Hawkins Adams is an Essence bestselling author whose books illuminate the themes of faith, forgiveness, and women’s friendships. She is the author of Speak to My Heart, Nothing but the Right Thing, and Watercolored Pearls. Adams is also a freelance journalist and inspirational speaker, and devotes considerable time to child advocacy issues. She and her family live in Virginia. Stacy welcomes readers to visit her at http://www.stacyhawkinsadams.com.

I just began reading Stacy Hawkins Adams this year, and I could not put her down. I devoured every book that she published within a week. She has a refreshing voice and perspective. Her characters are unique and colorful. I suggest you read her books in the series order indicated here.

SpeaktoMyHeartSpeak to My Heart (1st in the series)

In Speak to My Heart: A Novel, Serena Jasper is successful, sassy, and saved. Her life is going great. Her professional advertising career has hit the fast track, her future looks promising, and her mother couldn’t be more proud. But then Mama shares a devastating secret that changes Serena’s life. Feeling like her whole identity is in question, Serena decides she needs a break from everything and everyone. From Mama. And from God. Throwing herself into her budding career and her new friendship with a handsome seminary student named Micah, Serena discovers she can no longer avoid God’s voice or Mama’s secret. Can she come to terms with her mother’s past, her relationships, and the One who was always speaking to her heart, even when she wasn’t listening? Or is it too late to make amends? “Speak to My Heart is an engrossing book with a well-developed plot and believable characters that engages you from the first page to the last.”-Jacquelin Thomas, author of Soul Journey “Love triumphs in Speak To My Heart, a delightful debut novel which is sure to tug at your heart as the story weaves an emotionally charged tale seasoned with romance, despair, and forgiveness.”-Patricia Haley, best-selling author of No Regrets and Blind Faith.

NothingButtheRightThingNothing But the Right Thing (2nd in a series)

In Nothing but the Right Thing: A Novel, Life seems sweet for Serena McDaniels. She has a handsome husband, a beautiful home, and a job she loves. But there are two things she can’t get out of her mind–the children she craves and a best friend trapped in an abusive marriage. With two miscarriages already, Serena’s not sure her dream of motherhood will ever come true. She can’t help her friend, Erika, leave Elliot behind without jeopardizing her own safety. And she watches helplessly as her husband, Micah, struggles for answers to a personal dilemma. Can Serena trust God to lead her life and the lives of her loved ones–no matter what? “This stirring tale of grace and adversity will keep readers turning pages long into the night. Don’t miss it.”–Marilynn Griffith, author of Made of Honor and Pink “An outstanding, heartfelt, and compelling novel about faith, love, friendship, and forgiveness.”–Kimberley Brooks, author of He’s Fine . . . But Is He Saved? “You’ll walk away with another dose of faith, a new hope for your dreams, and a realization that walking with God is nothing but the right thing!”–Tia McCollors, author of A Heart of Devotion and Zora’s Cry. 

WateredColoredPearlsWatercolored Pearls (3rd in a series)

In Watercolored Pearls: A Novel, Stacy Hawkins Adams assembled a colorful cast of characters in this story about friendship, faith, and strength. The different dynamics of these multifarious characters, that they would actually be friends, adds to the powerful plot.

Serena finally has the children she so fervently prayed for, but she struggles with motherhood. She has difficulty balancing her mother duties with the rest of the necessary tasks in her life. Her twin boys are adorable, but more than a handful for Serena. Wrestling with doubts about her abilities and suffering from personal attention, Serena feels low self-esteem wrap itself around her like hug. Maintaining her sanity is paramount, along with steering her friend Tawana away from self-destruction and convincing her friend Ericka to be honest with herself and Serena. So when Serena gets some news that totally shatters her world, she’ll need her friends to be strong for her.

Ericka extracted herself and her child from an abusive marriage. Three years later, her estranged husband Elliot appears to have changed. And although she’s resisted his previous attempts to reconcile, she’s surprisingly confused when he tells her that he wants a divorce because he’s found someone else.

Tawana has a scholarship to Harvard’s Law School, a daughter to care for, and a sense of self-worthlessness that spawns her to make bad decisions. She must face reality and her own demons if she wants to keep her scholarship, her child, and her self-respect.

These three women’s lives collide on the canvas of this story, which is eloquently painted by Stacy Hawkins Adams. I thoroughly enjoyed this didactic, encouraging story and its enlightening characters. If you want an uplifting story with enlightened characters, this is it.

Reviewed by Trina Love Abram for Written Magazine

Available on amazon.com’s Kindle and on the iPhone with the Kindle application:
Watercolored Pearls: A Novel Kindle Edition

 

TheSomedayListThe Someday List (Jubilant Soul Series #1)

In The Someday List (Jubilant Soul Series #1), Stacy Hawkins Adams addresses the question: What do you do when you realize you’re not who you want to be?

Rachelle Covington has it all. A fabulous home, a handsome and successful husband, two beautiful children, and a place in the upper crust that’s quite comfortable. But life is not all it’s cracked up to be, and Rachelle finds herself yearning for more. When her husband goes away on a business trip and the kids are sent off to the grandparents for a month, Rachelle heads back to Jubilant, Texas, to visit family and reconnect with her past, her purpose, and herself. But when a blast from the past shows up, Rachelle must confront feelings she thought she’d long buried. Will she give up everything to recover what could have been? Or will she find a reason to plan for the future? Fresh, sincere, and full of hope, The Someday List is an honest look at what makes us who we are.

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The Someday List (Jubilant Soul Series #1) Kindle Edition

 

WorthThousandWordsWorth A Thousand Words (Jubilant Soul Series #2)

In Worth a Thousand Words: A Novel (Jubilant Soul), life has always gone Indigo Burns’s way. She’s smart, pretty, and talented, and she knows exactly what she wants. A photography internship at her hometown’s local newspaper is the next step in her well-laid plans for her future. But her long-term goals are put to the test when her boyfriend Brian proposes–two years before he’s supposed to and in front of all the guests at her college graduation party. Too concerned about his feelings to say no, she heartily agrees, but inside she’s cringing. Indigo knows in her heart that she’s not prepared to sacrifice her dreams to become Brian’s wife–not before she has achieved any of them. Will she find the answers among family and friends in Jubilant, Texas? Or will the picture-perfect life she dreams of be left behind?

Available on amazon.com’s Kindle and on the iPhone with the Kindle application:
Worth a Thousand Words: A Novel Kindle Edition

 

Vanessa Davis Griggs

Vanessa Davis Griggs is a motivational speaker and the author of If Memory Serves, Strongholds, Blessed Trinity, Wings of Grace, and Promises Beyond Jordan. A recipient of several awards, this married mother of three adult sons and grandmother of two adorable granddaughters lives in Birmingham, Alabama.

BlessedTrinityBlessed Trinity

In Blessed Trinity, three sisters…one devastating secret.
Faith Alexandria Morrell, the oldest of a mysterious trio of sisters, lives a troubled life and guards a horrifying secret. Yet few, least of all her new church family, would believe this always-impeccably-dressed woman is so utterly lost. But what lies beneath the surface of Faith’s carefully constructed veneer could completely destroy her.

StrongholdsStrongholds

In Strongholds (Blessed Trinity), when Pastor George Landris, the dreadlock-wearing minister of the new mega-church, Followers of Jesus Faith Worship Center, urges his congregation to approach the altar and cast off their strongholds–also known as their weaknesses–it’s the start of intense soul-searching for many.

From a married couple’s twin additions to gambling and gluttony, to a female member’s adulterous affair, a computer expert’s obsession with cyber-porn and a therapist’s workaholism, the Pastor’s church family is about to open the proverbial floodgates. And that’s just the beginning. There’s also the woman whose battle with mental illness hides a buried trauma, and the religious devotee who’s so busy fearing the devil she’s forgotten what faith is really about. The plot only thickens when the Pastor’s wife lightens his load by helping him counsel–and finds herself at the center of a decades-long deception.

Insightful, witty, and always poignant, Vanessa Davis Griggs delivers another compelling novel, taking readers behind the scenes of mega-churches to show the amazing power that redemption and faith can have on people’s lives.

Available on amazon.com’s Kindle and on the iPhone with the Kindle application:
StrongholdsKindle Edition

IfMemoryServesIf Memory Serves

In If Memory Serves, scandalous secrets, impossible choices,
and supreme tests of faith combine in this thrilling new
novel from bestselling author Vanessa Davis Griggs.

 

PracticeWhatUPreachPracticing What You Preach

In Practicing What You Preach, Marcus Peeples seems like the perfect man for aspiring wedding planner Melissa Anderson. Marcus, a tall, handsome pharmaceutical salesperson, finally talks her into a date. Much to Melissa’s surprise, he doesn’t balk when she insists their first date will be at her Bible study class at Followers of Jesus Faith Worship Center. As time goes by, Melissa feels more and more drawn to Marcus. However, he’s divorced, and her beliefs won’t allow her to continue their relationship. Griggs has written a novel about African Americans trying their best to follow a faith-based life. Each of the 47 short chapters begins with a Bible verse, and questions for book-discussion groups are included. This is a romance for readers who like their books enhanced with religious teachings, and it will surely appeal to fans of Felicia Mason and Stacy Hawkins Adams. –Shelley Mosley

Available on amazon.com’s Kindle and on the iPhone with the Kindle application:
Practicing What You Preach Kindle Edition 

 

Victoria Christopher Murray

Victoria Christopher Murray’s Jasmine Larson series is both entertaining and enlightening. Jasmine was the man-stealer in VCM’s 2005 bestseller Temptation. If you haven’t read Temptation, then you might want to start with it first. The books are in chronological order, and I suggest reading them that way to get the full affect and growth of Jasmine Larson.

ASinandAShameA Sin and A Shame

In A Sin and a Shame: A Novel, after fleeing Los Angeles when her attempt to break up her best friend’s wedding fails, Jasmine is now a changed woman…and a Christian. She’s living in the Big Apple and she’s ready to find the soul mate she is sure God has for her. But soon after she meets her dream man — a preacher who falls head over heels in love with her — a man from Jasmine’s past reappears, and an unexpected pregnancy threatens to sabotage all of her dreams. Will Jasmine’s lying and scheming continue? Or will she finally learn to be honest with herself — and with those who love her?

Available on amazon.com’s Kindle and on the iPhone with the Kindle application:
A Sin and a Shame Kindle Edition 

TooLittleTooLateToo Little, Too Late

In Too Little, Too Late: A Novel, Jasmine Larson Bush returns to her devious ways in this tale of two marriages — each threatened by lies and betrayal.

She took marriage vows to be honest and true, but Jasmine’s still hiding secrets to keep her husband, Minister Hosea Bush, by her side. When Hosea’s ex-fiancée, Natasia, suddenly appears in New York, Jasmine knows it’s not a coincidence. A former manstealer herself, Jasmine is very aware of Natasia’s motives — even if Hosea is not.

Complicating Jasmine’s life is the secret she’s kept from her baby’s daddy. Luckily for her, Brian Lewis has problems of his own. His wife, Alexis, is convinced he’s cheating on her — but Brian’s real betrayal is much worse. Revealing the truth to his wife could lead him back to the biggest mistake of his life…Jasmine.

Two marriages are in desperate jeopardy. Will Jasmine be able to scheme to save her own? Or will she have to choose between protecting her past and compromising her future? Even if Jasmine and Brian find the courage to stop the lies, it may be too little, too late….

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Lady Jasmine

With her own lies, she nearly destroyed her marriage to Pastor Hosea Bush. In Too Little Too Late, Jasmine was forced to reveal every secret she’d ever kept from her husband, right down to her real age, weight, and shoe size! She thought she had told Hosea everything.

In Lady Jasmine: A Novel, when Jasmine is blackmailed with a terrible truth from her past that she “forgot” to tell Hosea, more than just her marriage is in jeopardy.

Surprisingly, her first instinct is to tell the truth. Jasmine knows, however, that this is one part of her life that can never be exposed. Determined to keep the life she fought so hard to save, Jasmine is willing to commit any sin — even murder — to leave her past behind her. No one can know the truth about the First Lady of City of Lights at Riverside Church. No one can know that beneath the veneer of a redeemed Christian wife, there lies a sinner — especially not her trusting husband.

Available on amazon.com’s Kindle and on the iPhone with the Kindle application:
Lady Jasmine: A Novel Kindle Edition

© 2009 KaTrina Love Abram

21 Tips to Help You Balance Your Life

Balancing Life

Balancing Life

 

21 Tips to Help You Balance Your Life
by Trina

I’ve worked since I was 13 years old. Hard work was ingrained in me at a very young age. So by the time that I was 19, I had a full-time job, two part-time jobs, and was a full-time student. Not even severe illnesses slowed me down. But as I got older and looked back, I realized that I wasn’t having a good time…that I was doing to please others, worshipping money, and running from something. It took me a year to compile and successfully apply all of these suggestions, but when I did, I felt such a sense of peace and calm that I knew I’d never make that mistake again.

Well I was wrong, 10 years later, I made the same mistake, except this time, I had two full-time contracts, a husband, cooking classes, writing classes, book clubs, a garden, writing fiction, and when I got severely ill this time, I realized that I was running from myself. My self-worth had become wrapped up in what I did. I stayed busy and flustered to avoid me and to be accepted. So, I got these principles back out, added to them, and reapplied them. I not only have peace and calm, but I enjoy myself, accept myself, and love myself enough to take better care of myself. I know that even in a bad day, there was something good. I don’t take life, my health, my job, my family, or friends for granted. I have learned to Live. Love. Laugh! I hope these suggestions help you gain a new perspective on things and add positively to your life.

Begin each day with purpose.
bibleEach morning, reflect on your purpose for the day for at least 15 minutes. Take that time to read some scriptures, talk to God, or write your To Do List. Write down and recite affirmations that uplift you with positive energy. Prioritize. Organize. Your morning demeanor and thoughts determine the course of your day. Start your day off on a positive note with positive, uplifting, and successful thoughts. Use this time to mentally prepare yourself for a great day.

 

Make Yourself a Priority.
Take time to do something that you enjoy daily, whether it is exercising, gardeningtending to your garden, listening to your favorite jazz, reading a magazine, getting a manicure/pedicure, or taking yourself out to dinner. When you spend the majority of your time expending energy to make your boss or your company happy, your husband and your kids comfortable, or any myriad of things that are on your “To Do List” that have nothing to do with you, at some point you develop negative emotions.

 

 
 Write a To Do List & focus on one thing at a time.
To Do ListI write a To Do List for the week and for each day. It keeps me sane. Seeing my tasks written down on paper relegates the importance of each task in my mind. I can eliminate frivolous deeds and concentrate more on priority items. Focus on one task and keep working on it until you finish it. Then cross it off your list. Concentrate on one thing at a time. See that task through, finish it, and mark it off , so that you feel a sense of productivity.

 

Be realistic in your scheduling.
Stop trying to cram so much stuff into your hours and days. Consider your tasks and meetings and realistically anticipate how long you think it’ll take rushingyou to complete the task, drive to your meetings. When you make appointments, space them out enough to allot for traffic, kid emergencies, or a simple rest hour for yourself. Rushing from one deed to another zaps your energy. You also want to be on time…whether you are joining friends at lunch, arriving at work, or participating in a business meeting. When you enlist yourself in time crunches, where you are rushing, you are more apt to forget stuff, be tense and irritable, and stress yourself out…and those around you.

 

Limit television time.
“People who overdose on television tend to be more depressed than those who watch in moderation. So go ahead and TiVo Oprah and 24, but indulge in other pastimes as well.”  Join a book club. Play board games. Plant some flowers.

 

Exercise!
You don’t even have to think of it as exercise. Dancing around your house for 10 minutes is a form of exercise. Find some exercises that you can do at businesswomnexercballyour desk. Walking up and down steps is a form of exercise. Instead of taking the elevator, take the stairs. Don’t look for the closest parking spot; instead, park a little ways off and walk…that is a form of exercise. I take Yoga and Pilates, for mental and physical exercise. Go hiking. Take a Belly Dancing class. Take Salsa lessons. Try some different activities that speed your heart rate.  At Aerobics Yoga & More studio, they offer Exotic Dancing and Zumba, which are classes where you do mostly dancing; however, it is also a choreographed cardiac workout with a professional. *As with any exercise, consult your physician first.

 

 Eat small, frequent, healthy meals.
I graze, which means that I eat several small meals per day because my body grocryshopneeds the constant nourishment and metabolizes smaller portions faster than large portions. To make sure that my meals are not oversized, I use a small plate. I always carry healthy snacks with me. Don’t diet, simply decrease the size of your portions. Eat healthy foods, such as fruits, vegetables, grains, whole wheat, fish, and chicken. Cook with olive oil and fresh herbs. Your body and digestive system will thank you.

 

 Have a strong support cast.
Women are notorious for thinking that they can do everything single-Party Girlshandedly. Not so! Your body and psyche will pay for it in the long run. Have friends that you can share and care with…someone you can pray with. Plan bi-weekly or monthly meetings with your girlfriends to talk, laugh, and love. You are not alone. Don’t try to do it all alone. Plan to see a movie, theatre show, concert, or have dinner. My friends and I have monthly cooking dates, where we specify a theme, and cook several dishes, meet, and have a feast.

 

Take your cape off.
SuperwomanOkay all of you Superwomen, you get no extra points for doing everything yourself. Others may not do things as you do, but if they can help, let them. Taking on everything because you think that no one else can do it right is a form of arrogance that can eventually be detrimental.

 

Take time to unwind.
blkwmnwitheyesclosedWhen you get home, take a minute to breathe and relax. Don’t start bustling about in a flurry. You are no good to anyone else or yourself if you are rushed and flustered. Sit down for a minute. Talk to your husband, kids, boyfriend, roommate about their day and share your day too. Read a scripture or two. Have a glass of wine.

 

Address one issue at a time.
A woman’s work is never done, but don’t take on several issues at once. Even address1issueattimeif there are several simultaneous issues, deal with them one at a time, and give yourself a pat on the back each time you resolve an issue. It’s similar to the tasks on your To Do List, where you focus on one item on the list, complete it, and then cross it off. Running a household, coordinating activities, setting up meetings, spearheading projects, running a department, running a business, or running a store are all time consuming and liken to multiple issues occurring simultaneously. Address one thing at a time.

 

Don’t Procrastinate.
Procrastination is a verb that means “to defer action; delay: to procrastinate until an opportunity is lost.” The fact that the word is a verb, meaning action, is lost on some. To procrastinate takes energy and action, so why not put that energy into the actual task. Procrastination can ruin your day. Get the toughest tasks, the ones you dread the most, out of the way first. Don’t let your tasks pile up to where they seem insurmountable and numerous. If you are a chronic procrastinator, ask yourself why you procrastinate, and write the answer down on a piece of paper. Next, ask yourself which tasks are you more likely to put off, and write that answer down on a piece of paper. Last, ask God (and yourself) why you procrastinate with the tasks. Get to the root of the procrastination, pray it away, and move out of the label ‘procrastinator’. 

Welcome imperfection.
The most stressful thing I’ve ever done is to attempt to be perfect. There is confidentladyno such thing. Only Jesus was perfect, and none of us can hold a candle to Him. Allow some things to go undone. My weekly To Do List serves this purpose because if I don’t get a task completed, I can relegate it to the next day (not an excuse for procrastination though). I learned that I don’t have to empty my Inbox or clean all of the dishes out of the sink every night. If I’m tired, I finish the next day. Give yourself a break.

 

Don’t fret over finances.
In this economy, it is difficult not to fret over finances; however, if your asianswithpiggybankbiggest problem is money-related, celebrate because money problems can be fixed. One of the best things that you can do is to save, no matter what the amount. Even if you save 50 cents per week, that money accumulates and adds up. You should also contribute to your 401K, especially if your company matches. Budget, and if that’s not what you really want to do, then at least know exactly how much you have coming in and going out each month. Don’t use credit cards or credit. Pay cash for your purchases, which helps to eliminate emotional and overspending. It’s easy to whip out that debit or credit card because you don’t see the funds leaving your account, but with cash, you can visually see that money dwindling as you spend. Saving , budgeting, and paying cash can offer peace of mind no matter what the economy is. My favorite financial guru is Dave Ramsey. You can visit him at www.daveramsey.com.

 

Unclutter.
“Clutter creates visual noise that distracts us from the task at hand. Freeing up space frees you to focus energy on what is important.” Cluttered space MessyClosetCartooncauses a cluttered mind, and a cluttered mind is spastic. Throw away items that you don’t need. File away items that you need, but don’t need to see. Organize. Create a space for everything, and then put items in their perspective spaces. If you’ve never been very good at organizing, try this simple task. In your closet, put all of the dresses together, all of your pants together, long-sleeved blouses together, short-sleeved tops together, belts in one area. Just put like items together. Pat yourself on the back when you accomplish this, then methodically move on to other areas of your life and organize them likewise.

 

Plan a vacation.
You can plan vacations months to years in advance. Give yourself Vacationsomething to look forward to. Reward yourself. Save to pay for the vacation and so that you’ll have money while you are on vacation. Make sure you vacation with someone likeminded as you. Bad vacations occur when you are with someone whose vision of the vacation and activities differs from yours. Agree to disagree.

 

Get proper sleep.
Lack of sleep not only leaves you fatigued and irritable, but it also Skinadversly affects your skin. While you sleep, your skin repairs and rejuvenates itself, so when you don’t get enough sleep, it shows in your face. It is also best to sleep on your back because it diminishes the affects of gravity on your face. Sleeping on your stomach can cause morning puffiness because all of the days fluids pool in your face. Try to go to sleep at the same time each night.

 

Attract peace, love, and joy each day.
Each morning when you wake up, remind yourself that you will attract DancingInOfficepeace, love, and joy. Give yourself about 10 minutes each morning to reflect on what is peaceful, loving, and joyful. Take those images and words with you all day. Don’t let anyone else’s attitude, words, or demeanor remove your peace, love, and joy. You cannot control people, but you can control your reaction to them. Pray for the difficult people in your life. Everyday you have something to be thankful for, something to celebrate, something that makes you smile, dance, laugh, clap your hands, and giggle.

 

Learn to say NO.
SayNoOne of the most calming, peaceful things that I did was to learn that everyone else’s emergency wasn’t my emergency. If you cannot do it, don’t want to do it, or cannot make time to do it, say NO. Don’t overburdern and over task yourself to please or impress others. Don’t be afraid to say NO.

 

Don’t worry.
Worrying is an empty activity that yields no returns. It takes lots of energy worriedblackladyand lots of time, but there are no benefits at all to worrying. Worrying can age you prematurely and is linked to illnesses, such as high blood pressure. There is nothing that God can’t change. Anything that you loose, that gets reposesed or forclosed on, God can provide 10 times better. Put your energy into something that does yield returns, praying, faithfulness, and joy. In the Bible, God and Jesus tell us a number of times “Do not worry.”

 

Treat Yourself!
Not encouraging you to overspend or to spend what you don’t have, but if blkwmnshoppingyou are financially able right now, take yourself to dinner or buy yourself a nice outfit. Treat yourself to a day at the Spa. Get a facial. Get a massage. Get a manicure and a pedicure. Go to the salon and get a new or updated hair style. Get a makeover. Take a long, warm bath with candles illuminating. Smile at yourself  in the mirror, and appreciate who you are. There is no one else like you.

 

© 2009 KaTrina Love Abram